Sex Date Ideas

Doing something different with your lover is the first step to making sex more interesting and exciting. Traditionally, a date is based on a romantic concept, and you might get lucky if you do it right. But when you are already in a relationship, being romantic just to get sex is a little past its expiration date. Being sexually creative is one of the most important ingredients in a successful relationship, so why not plan a creative date that is specifically for sex? It will, after all, provide something new and exciting, not to mention a raunchy boost.

Here are six sex date ideas that are sure to steam up your love life. Granted, you might not be up for all the ideas that are presented here; feel free to dream up something hot for you and your lover. Your lover will appreciate it, and it may well prompt more erotic adventures.

Visit a private dancer

Visit a classy strip club together and get a private dance as a couple. This is a fairly effortless sex date, but it can be very erotic to have a sultry creature dancing and writhing while the two of you sit and watch in the magic little booth with the velvet, mirrors and vanilla scents. Choose your venue carefully, since there is nothing less sexy than turning up at a sleazy, badly run joint. The larger strip clubs usually have more dancers with well-choreographed stage shows, whereas the slummy pole bars typically cycle single moms who are past their prime through three-song performances. You could also try to take your sex date to a peep show or a porn theater, but these places tend to be sleazy and not very female-friendly.

Eat an arousing dinner

A dinner chock-full of aphrodisiacs can make for an excellent sex date. Select sexy ingredients, such as champagne, oysters, avocado, asparagus, and anything phallic. Keep your fare light, as you don’t want to send all your blood to your stomach instead of other important places. Instead of simply feeding each other with your fingers, you could opt to make an appealing platter out of yourself. Simply get naked and place the delicious feast over your torso, and remember to strategically place some of the food. Dessert is often great on a "body plate" (yours or hers), and can involve warm chocolate sauce, strawberries, melon, and whipped cream. Sex and food have always gone hand in hand since both are about sensations, tastes, textures, and smells. As part of the preparations for you sex-date feast, remember to help the ambiance with scents, such as authentic ylang-ylang, rose or sandalwood essential oils that are known to have a sexually stimulating effect.

Play dirty games

No one said that your sex date can’t be a play date. Unfortunately, there is a true shortage of fantastic sex games for couples in the world, but there are some that will never go out of fashion. Combining your favorite card game with stripping is always fun and can be a blast for beginners. Other games available are sexual card games, dice games and board games.

Board games are typically more involved and take longer, leading to a steamy night of passion instead of a quick bump and grind. Monogamy, which won Adult Game of the Year, is a fun and interesting lover’s game. The Kama Sutra Game will add depth to your lovemaking and relationship, as well as fun and eroticism. In addition to a number of online resources, Hugh de Beer’s book, 269 Amazing Sex Games, offers many titillating, fun and pleasing ways to get your nasty on.

Shop for sex toys

Find a boutique sex store with a bit of atmosphere and a decent range of products and take your missy there. A sex date that involves finding sex toys is fun, and nothing builds more erotic anticipation than the idea of going home afterward to stick this or that in there or here. What you can shop for on your sex date is virtually limitless: You can purchase toys, lingerie or sexy outfits. You can even do a sex shop crawl, which is akin to bar-hopping and, therefore, involves going in to a number of different shops to take a look around. It will surely make you laugh, and sex will definitely be on both your minds as you drive home -- if you make it that far.

Go skinny-dipping

Sharing a night out in the elements is fun and you can make it as sexy or romantic as you please when you strip and dip. Choose your location well and the atmosphere will take care of the eroticism. Don’t have any decent beaches, rivers or lakes at your disposal? Simply find a beautiful location with no one else around -- perhaps a wilderness park or a rest stop with a view -- and make the most of it. Useful props are wine, food and a blanket. It goes without saying, but watch out for the police -- no one wants to get charged with indecent exposure or lewd behavior.

Have a porn night

Having a porn night, in which you watch movies, read erotic literature or look at erotic photography/images, can make for a very stimulating sex date. To ensure that you both get a little of what you like, it’s a good idea to choose one or two movies each. Good erotic literature is hard to find, but worth the search. Sexy short stories are good because you can read them to each other without sending your lover to sleep. Adult magazines or bookstores will also have a range. Erotic images are sometimes nice, but sleaze may not turn her on so choose carefully. Beautiful photography books, like black-and-white erotic art nudes, are great coffee table fixtures, and have the added benefit of accosting your lover's eyes with pages filled with lovely bodies.

To Kiss and be Kissed

Kissing is not such a clear-cut subject as you may think. It depends where you are sitting when reading this article. For many countries in Asia for example kissing is a private affair that almost never happens in public. I remember a Filipino guy I worked with in Singapore who was completely amazed to the point of hysteria that two men were seen kissing in public on the London tube. He simply couldn't deal with that concept at all. I have lived in Asia for a while and it was very rare the whole time I was there to meet indigenous people who kissed openly. Indeed in Thailand it was far more common to rub noses than to ever touch lips.

Kissing is a sexual act to some degree and some societies simply do not view kissing as appropriate behavior in public. Even in the UK , overt kissing in public is often frowned upon by older members of the public, even if as a youngster its perfectly natural. Then again on a summer evening in Rome, or a city park in Paris, I would expect to see couples of every age group kissing passionately as the most natural thing in the world. It all depends on where you are you see.

In western society kissing is a pretty normal mainstream pastime and rather lovely at that. The problem occurs when we start dating and are not sure when we should kiss and to what extent. The crux appears to be that we want our first kiss with someone we like to be prefect. If we begin dating and we don't kiss its unsettling, but if we are French Kissing (openmouthed) on day 1 the romance can dissolve too quickly. So it is a matter of waiting.

There is no definite here but it is pretty much accepted that on a first date, if it goes well then you should offer or accept a small kiss on the cheek and nothing more. This will occur when you go your separate ways and says that a basic level of attraction has been built up. The desire may be to kiss the lips off your date but hold back if you can. Anticipation is the mother of desire.

Of course by your second date, if you are both displaying all the signs of attraction then it won't take long before you are kissing more passionately but again it depends on the situation, culture and person you are with. Find the right place and wait as long as you cam I was dating a girl in Hong Kong and waited two weeks , seeing her 4 times a week, before we kissed properly. Believe me the kiss was worth the wait because it happened at the top of the mountain above Hong Kong called The Peak set against the lightening of an electric storm. An electric kiss it surely was and totally memorable for all the right reasons.

Guys should also remember that kissing does not automatically lead to any other physical contact for some time, so be patient and take things slowly.

• Make sure you know how to kiss

• Ensure your hygiene is spot on

• Carry some gum if you need to freshen up

• Floss regularly

• Remember to kiss gently and sensitively

• Wait until you are ready to kiss and choose your moment

• Allow the passion of kissing to build up slowly

• Remember that a first kiss should be memorable

• take the initiative if your partner is shy

• Learn the key body signals that demonstrate conclusively that your date wants to be kissed

• Remember that good kissing can be as sensual as sex

• Appreciate that some people do not liked to be kissed in public

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