Top Useful Dating Tips

Best Time to Visit Rajasthan

2011-10-07T23:52:00.000-07:00

Rajasthan experiences extreme climatic conditions. While it is a year round destination, from the comfort level, the period between October to March is by far the most salubrious and thus the best time to visit Rajasthan India.

The climate in Rajasthan. varies according to the season. Summer in Rajasthan is hot and dry. Tourists visiting Rajasthan in summer should protect themselves from the sun by wearing loose comfortable cotton clothes, and using sunglasses and sunscreen lotion. Remember to drink lots of water or fruit juice etc, to avoid dehydration.

In winter the days are sunny and pleasant while nights can be chilly. Some light warm clothing is required in the evenings and early in the morning. The warm and bright days of October to March are thus ideal for sightseeing and traveling in Rajasthan and are the best time to visit Rajasthan.

How to Flirt

2009-04-04T12:15:00.000-07:00

You are at a party and out of nowhere someone is standing close to you. Like a genie, they keep turning up, close by, catching your gaze. You go and chat and they stand in the same position as you, playing with their hair, laughing with you and holding your gaze. This person likes you and is flirting. How do you know? Because without realizing it, you are an expert in flirting and body language.

What would dating be without flirting. Flirting is fabulous, flirting is fun, flirting is giving out signals that we may be interested in someone, or we may be pretending. But within reason, flirting is part and parcel of our daily lives. Flirting can be harmful when it threatens fidelity but it can also be sexy and bring people closer together. Some people are good at flirting and some people hopeless.

Are you a flirt? If you are you know it and are secretly proud of the fact. It is sexy when you flirt and people like it. Flirting means giving people attention, it means, smiling, touching, whispering. In the right circumstances it is a powerful tool especially against the unwary. In the wrong circumstances it will get you fired. There is a gulf between flirting and unwanted sexual advances so beware.

It is useful to look at some of the key indicators of flirting and they can prove extremely useful when working out if the person across the table from you is interested. The one to keep your eye on the most is "mirroring". Mirroring is when someone copies your body movements whilst retaining eye contact. Its is one of the biggest giveaways there is.

Eye Contact

Pupils are dilated and eye contact is maintained
Eye contact combined with an arched eye brow
Any form of winking
Rapid eye movement and blinking
Eye contact where the gaze is held longer than usual. Men normally look away.

Hair and Mouth

Playing with hair in a stroking or toying motion
Eye contact whilst playing with hair
Touching your hair at any time
Lots of smiling, open mouthed and teeth flashing
Lip licking
Puckering lips in a simulated kiss form
Any form of touch of the lips or teeth with tongue

Body Movement

The thrusting of chest or breasts outwards whilst holding your gaze
The copying of your posture - mirroring
Holding your gaze whilst moving to music
Using a posture with legs crossed towards you
Leaning in towards you whilst holding your gaze
Open legged posture facing you
The display of flesh of arm or thigh

Touching

They will want to touch you and will reach out to do so with some excuse
They will offer to place food in your mouth as if feeding you
They will play with their hands and then with yours

The Way they Speak

Their tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own
Lots of laughter and questioning tones
In a group, you are singled out by this person for attention even in general conversation and questions. This happened to me in New York and I was taken aback how obvious it was.

The main thing to remember with flirting is that it is fun and so much more so when you are receptive to it and understand when it is happening to you. The best flirtatious moments will always take you by surprise.

Starting with heroic features and then…

2008-10-22T09:02:00.000-07:00

While meeting for the first time we attempt to portray us and highlight our heroic features. Guys! Do we continue with it or can we carry us with exhibitionist attitudes for long? The answer is pretty known to us and this is a major cause that irritates our opposite sex. It is best to present us as we are and this really helps to keep the relation ticking for long. And if you are in a mood to make your date partner a life partner, the story should be totally special. Just don’t pretend, talk truth but if you stick to boring topics, the dream for life long relationship may reach the dead end soon.

Old-Fashioned Dating

2008-09-27T13:11:00.000-07:00

Every woman loves to think of herself as a 21st century girl. Today’s women are fearless and independent, and they don’t mind letting the world know.

There’s still, however, a huge part in every woman that wants an old-fashioned, stand-up man who can take care of her every need.

It’s important to know which rules you can resurrect from Ye Olde dating manuals, and which will just insult her; you certainly don’t want to insist that she has a chaperone or disrespect her by asking her parents’ permission before taking her out. There are, however, some tried-and-true, old-fashioned dating tricks that will make her swoon like a silver-screen starlet.

Read below for some old-fashioned dating tips that’ll help you become your date’s knight in shining armor.

Plan and pay for the evening

This is probably one of the most highly debated of all dating rules; paying for the date is so contentious precisely because it’s such an old-fashioned dating practice. A lot of women will make a faux effort to pick up the bill, but most still appreciate the gesture when a man pays.

Also, be sure to take control of making reservations and planning fun activities for the remainder of the outing. There’s little that’s worse than having the “what do you want to do” conversation on a first date or any date for that matter.

Just be careful: implementing this plan and coming off like Cary Grant instead of Cro-Magnom man can be tough. If she makes a suggestion, ask if it can be saved for the next night out, because you’ve made special plans for this one.

If you phrase it like that, you’ll maintain control of the evening while taking the responsibility off her and still showing her respect.

Pick her up

This is a true blast from the past, and an integral element to old-fashioned dating. You need to roll up in front of her house or apartment, get out of your car, knock on her door, and walk her to the car (don’t forget to open the car door for her too). Same goes for the end of the evening.

Once she’s cradled in the passenger seat of your car, she’ll feel like she’s been taken back to the good old days -- when a woman was really wooed. And she’ll really appreciate the gesture.

When you ask her out, don’t give her a choice. Just ask what time you ought to pick her up for your night out. The added bonus is that you can take care of parking fees and road tolls, letting her literally enjoy the ride. You’re also the automatic designated driver, so she can really relax.

Treat it like an occasion

Often lost on a new generation of more self-serving adults is the old-fashioned dating concept of a date being a special night out. This is a chance to get to know somebody you think is special and you want to show your best side. The first element to this is dressing the part. You don’t need to wear a tux, just be sure you’re dressed well. This is not a drinking night with your buds. Refresh your look and throw on a masculine scent (but not too much) before stepping out. She’ll definitely appreciate the effort.

Give her your jacket

This may be one of the hardest old-fashioned dating tips to pull off.

Don’t be lame. Giving her your jacket must be a smooth transition. So, if it’s not cold or rainy, don’t pass your jacket on. And the key to this is not asking if she’d like to wear it. If you do, she will likely be too embarrassed, shy or proud to accept, and instead will suffer in silence.

If you notice her shivering or if she mentions the cool night, just take off your coat and offer it to her when it’s almost at her shoulders. This way she’s still not obligated to take it, but is much more likely to accept.

This is a great move to bring into your modern-day repertoire for a couple of reasons. First is that she’s more comfortable and feels taken care of and you get to feel like a hero. The second is that it’s just so darn nice, and that’s an irresistible trait in a man.

Respect her old-fashioned side

If you’re going to show off your macho side, she may pull out her ponytail and poodle-skirt mannerisms too. If she waits for you to open the door, be sure to oblige and appreciate the chance to show off your superior manners.

When it comes down to what happens at the end of the date, don’t make any assumptions just because you’ve worked your buns off to give her a great time. If you’ve done your work, she’ll come to you when she’s ready. Just walk her to her door and tell her you’ve had a great time. Don’t get to close, but if she does, well it’s all up to you from there.

Follow up

Hardly anybody does this anymore, and that’s what makes it so great.

After a job interview, it’s good policy to give a call or send a note letting your prospective employer know that you enjoyed meeting them and hope to have a chance to see them again.

The same policy works in dating. The day after you’ve gone out, give her a call, a text or an e-mail letting her know that you had a wonderful time. Don’t ask for another night out yet, but let her know that you’re interested in seeing her again. Then give it some time and make your move.

Sex Date Ideas

2008-09-27T12:56:00.000-07:00

Doing something different with your lover is the first step to making sex more interesting and exciting. Traditionally, a date is based on a romantic concept, and you might get lucky if you do it right. But when you are already in a relationship, being romantic just to get sex is a little past its expiration date. Being sexually creative is one of the most important ingredients in a successful relationship, so why not plan a creative date that is specifically for sex? It will, after all, provide something new and exciting, not to mention a raunchy boost.

Here are six sex date ideas that are sure to steam up your love life. Granted, you might not be up for all the ideas that are presented here; feel free to dream up something hot for you and your lover. Your lover will appreciate it, and it may well prompt more erotic adventures.

Visit a private dancer

Visit a classy strip club together and get a private dance as a couple. This is a fairly effortless sex date, but it can be very erotic to have a sultry creature dancing and writhing while the two of you sit and watch in the magic little booth with the velvet, mirrors and vanilla scents. Choose your venue carefully, since there is nothing less sexy than turning up at a sleazy, badly run joint. The larger strip clubs usually have more dancers with well-choreographed stage shows, whereas the slummy pole bars typically cycle single moms who are past their prime through three-song performances. You could also try to take your sex date to a peep show or a porn theater, but these places tend to be sleazy and not very female-friendly.

Eat an arousing dinner

A dinner chock-full of aphrodisiacs can make for an excellent sex date. Select sexy ingredients, such as champagne, oysters, avocado, asparagus, and anything phallic. Keep your fare light, as you don’t want to send all your blood to your stomach instead of other important places. Instead of simply feeding each other with your fingers, you could opt to make an appealing platter out of yourself. Simply get naked and place the delicious feast over your torso, and remember to strategically place some of the food. Dessert is often great on a "body plate" (yours or hers), and can involve warm chocolate sauce, strawberries, melon, and whipped cream. Sex and food have always gone hand in hand since both are about sensations, tastes, textures, and smells. As part of the preparations for you sex-date feast, remember to help the ambiance with scents, such as authentic ylang-ylang, rose or sandalwood essential oils that are known to have a sexually stimulating effect.

Play dirty games

No one said that your sex date can’t be a play date. Unfortunately, there is a true shortage of fantastic sex games for couples in the world, but there are some that will never go out of fashion. Combining your favorite card game with stripping is always fun and can be a blast for beginners. Other games available are sexual card games, dice games and board games.

Board games are typically more involved and take longer, leading to a steamy night of passion instead of a quick bump and grind. Monogamy, which won Adult Game of the Year, is a fun and interesting lover’s game. The Kama Sutra Game will add depth to your lovemaking and relationship, as well as fun and eroticism. In addition to a number of online resources, Hugh de Beer’s book, 269 Amazing Sex Games, offers many titillating, fun and pleasing ways to get your nasty on.

Shop for sex toys

Find a boutique sex store with a bit of atmosphere and a decent range of products and take your missy there. A sex date that involves finding sex toys is fun, and nothing builds more erotic anticipation than the idea of going home afterward to stick this or that in there or here. What you can shop for on your sex date is virtually limitless: You can purchase toys, lingerie or sexy outfits. You can even do a sex shop crawl, which is akin to bar-hopping and, therefore, involves going in to a number of different shops to take a look around. It will surely make you laugh, and sex will definitely be on both your minds as you drive home -- if you make it that far.

Go skinny-dipping

Sharing a night out in the elements is fun and you can make it as sexy or romantic as you please when you strip and dip. Choose your location well and the atmosphere will take care of the eroticism. Don’t have any decent beaches, rivers or lakes at your disposal? Simply find a beautiful location with no one else around -- perhaps a wilderness park or a rest stop with a view -- and make the most of it. Useful props are wine, food and a blanket. It goes without saying, but watch out for the police -- no one wants to get charged with indecent exposure or lewd behavior.

Have a porn night

Having a porn night, in which you watch movies, read erotic literature or look at erotic photography/images, can make for a very stimulating sex date. To ensure that you both get a little of what you like, it’s a good idea to choose one or two movies each. Good erotic literature is hard to find, but worth the search. Sexy short stories are good because you can read them to each other without sending your lover to sleep. Adult magazines or bookstores will also have a range. Erotic images are sometimes nice, but sleaze may not turn her on so choose carefully. Beautiful photography books, like black-and-white erotic art nudes, are great coffee table fixtures, and have the added benefit of accosting your lover's eyes with pages filled with lovely bodies.

Establishing Trust

2008-08-03T04:53:00.000-07:00

To paraphrase the opening lines of one of my favorite movies, Casino, spoken by Robert DeNiro; "When you love someone, you trust them, there is no other way. You give them the keys to everything that's yours, otherwise what's the point". For me, those words sum up a lifetime of dating and relationships for the very essence of any relationships is quite simply, trust.

It is a word that we mention regularly without really thinking about what it really means. Well we kind of know but rarely do we talk about its importance. Trust is when we implicitly rely on the truth about our situation and what we are told and what we are led to believe. We give trust and we take trust at face value. We believe in the person we are dating, in the person we love and we do not question it. Trust is unspoken, it is not denied, it is part of everything we place our faith in. When we talk about 'head-games' we are often referring to trust or a lack of it.

Trust is the foundation of our dating experience because we want to be able to rely on someone and be relied upon. It is a tow-way faith experience where both parties have a support system that has undeniable truth at its core. In the first hours of our first date with someone we really like, we attempt to establish that trust. We ask questions and receive answers and we rely upon the basic truth in the picture that unfolds.

I often hear people saying that trust comes in time and that there will be no true love until trust is created. The issue I have with that is in its inherent lack of faith. When someone says they want to build up a level of trust they really mean that their trust in someone previously had been badly damaged and that they are cautious and have barriers that they need to remove over time. Totally understandable in this day and age. However by not trusting in the beginning you are denying the possibilities of truth at the early stages. You are skeptical and unforgiving to avoid hurt. Do you believe that love at first sight requires months of trust building afterwards?

Caution is inherently valuable when dating and being careful with what we are being led to believe is wise, but only up to a point. To not be believed takes away the romance of an occasion. Love is often about spontaneity and risk and to this extent we often find that powerful kind of emotional love when we are younger. As time goes by we are adept to trust people less due to a history of deceit and being lied to. It is often said that we get harder as we get older. That is a shame. How then can we hope to regain that level of innocent and powerful love and romance we may have experienced when we were, say 18 years old?

Think about the opening quote I made, and ask yourself how open you really are to new people,situations and emotions. Have yo reached a point where it would be impossible to go back and be immediately trusting, or do you think that with the right person you could throw caution to the wind. By analyzing yourself in this way, you can interpret how a future relationship might develop. Where a previous relationship has been abusive, trust will of course take time to build up but at the same time you can be cautious and semi-open. To do this you must date wisely and you must select potential partners well. This is why I often emphasize how and why you must plan your dating carefully.

Mysteriousness Is An Essential Factor For Dating Success

2008-08-03T04:51:00.001-07:00

Think about how many times you have heard the expression "mysterious stranger". Think about how many times you have heard someone say " I really want to get to know you more". People are attracted to mystery. Being enigmatic, in other words, not knowing what makes a person tick. Not knowing their thoughts. Not knowing everything about them provokes instant challenge. A mysterious stranger is an attractive person. You want to know more, you want to gain their attention you want to be known to them. Someone you can read like an open book lacks that essential quality and is therefore less attractive at first glance.

To be successful and attractive when dating it pays to keep something in reserve. A busy person is an attractive person because their life appears to be full, but you don't actually know that. You simply wish to know more. And in trying to know more, you find an interest level that you didn't find in those that offer you everything on a plate.

An enigmatic man has an air of mystery. An enigmatic woman has the same. Your desire quotient is increased significantly if you don't allow everything in your head to spill out to anyone within earshot. Mystery is a challenge and we know that challenge is inherent in many dating scenarios. By being a challenge to someone who wants to get to know you and by making them work for it, so your chances of success in the dating game are so much higher.

People often say that they meet someone when they least expected it. This is partly because by being busy with their every day routine they didn't notice that someone had taken an interest in them. This is often in part because you are busy. You are promoting an air of desirability because there is a mystery to you. Your life seems full and they are interested. They want to know more about you.

It is worth noting however that enigma and mystery are very different from being stubborn and moody. Not knowing about your life and what makes you trick is one thing. Being downright secretive is something completely different.

Here are some key tips to being enigmatic and mysterious:

At work or with friends, don't bore the office with every opinion you can muster.
Always keep something back when relating a story - why and how and when are details for later
Don't announce every plan you make. Keep some things to yourself for a while
Do not phone people, let them call you
Don't always return calls and never instantly
Keep your private life private. It is not open for general discussion and debate
Don't be too available but don't explain why you are not available either
Keep people guessing
Making interested parties think they are no the only person interested in you ups the ante and increases your desirability
Don't reply to emails and text messages at weekends
If you are using a dating service, don't reply to emails and messages at weekends
Be busy without giving details of what you are doing
Break plans occasionally without giving too much away
When you do meet up be entertaining and fascinating without giving every detail away
Never discuss ex partners and refuse to be drawn on the subject
Use an evasive enigmatic smile to answer questions to great effect
Even when people beg you to know more, keep them guessing
Never be too available, your diary is always semi-full as far as anyone is concerned
Mention you were with 'some people' but say little else on the subject when relating a tale
Let people do the running and don't do the chasing unless necessary
Have different groups of friends who you don't mix together
To be highly effective, create the desire initially then ration it afterwards. They will treat you like a drug, craving more due to the great times they have when they do eventually get to see you
Learn key expressions like "oh I have been really busy", "wow its been crazy", "I have lots of plans this week", "my diary is really full" and "Oh I have been doing so many things" without giving more away
Be a challenge and never be an open book. Make people work to get to know you

To Kiss and be Kissed

2008-08-03T04:42:00.000-07:00

Kissing is not such a clear-cut subject as you may think. It depends where you are sitting when reading this article. For many countries in Asia for example kissing is a private affair that almost never happens in public. I remember a Filipino guy I worked with in Singapore who was completely amazed to the point of hysteria that two men were seen kissing in public on the London tube. He simply couldn't deal with that concept at all. I have lived in Asia for a while and it was very rare the whole time I was there to meet indigenous people who kissed openly. Indeed in Thailand it was far more common to rub noses than to ever touch lips.

Kissing is a sexual act to some degree and some societies simply do not view kissing as appropriate behavior in public. Even in the UK , overt kissing in public is often frowned upon by older members of the public, even if as a youngster its perfectly natural. Then again on a summer evening in Rome, or a city park in Paris, I would expect to see couples of every age group kissing passionately as the most natural thing in the world. It all depends on where you are you see.

In western society kissing is a pretty normal mainstream pastime and rather lovely at that. The problem occurs when we start dating and are not sure when we should kiss and to what extent. The crux appears to be that we want our first kiss with someone we like to be prefect. If we begin dating and we don't kiss its unsettling, but if we are French Kissing (openmouthed) on day 1 the romance can dissolve too quickly. So it is a matter of waiting.

There is no definite here but it is pretty much accepted that on a first date, if it goes well then you should offer or accept a small kiss on the cheek and nothing more. This will occur when you go your separate ways and says that a basic level of attraction has been built up. The desire may be to kiss the lips off your date but hold back if you can. Anticipation is the mother of desire.

Of course by your second date, if you are both displaying all the signs of attraction then it won't take long before you are kissing more passionately but again it depends on the situation, culture and person you are with. Find the right place and wait as long as you cam I was dating a girl in Hong Kong and waited two weeks , seeing her 4 times a week, before we kissed properly. Believe me the kiss was worth the wait because it happened at the top of the mountain above Hong Kong called The Peak set against the lightening of an electric storm. An electric kiss it surely was and totally memorable for all the right reasons.

Guys should also remember that kissing does not automatically lead to any other physical contact for some time, so be patient and take things slowly.

Make sure you know how to kiss
Ensure your hygiene is spot on
Carry some gum if you need to freshen up
Floss regularly
Remember to kiss gently and sensitively
Wait until you are ready to kiss and choose your moment
Allow the passion of kissing to build up slowly
Remember that a first kiss should be memorable
take the initiative if your partner is shy
Learn the key body signals that demonstrate conclusively that your date wants to be kissed
Remember that good kissing can be as sensual as sex
Appreciate that some people do not liked to be kissed in public

Confidence in Dating

2008-08-03T04:38:00.000-07:00

I once read the results of a survey in a leading woman's magazine that said the number 1 most attractive quality in a man was confidence. Not arrogance, confidence. It took some time to sink in as to what this really meant. Did it mean grabbing the girl in matinee idol pose and whisking her backwards whilst I kissed those luscious lips of hers? Did it mean turning into a caveman never taking no for an answer? Did it mean turning up at the door of the girl next door and whisking her off to Paris for the weekend, though we had hardly spoken? What did they mean by confidence? The quest was on it find out.

Every woman I have asked will answer in a different vein so the answer isn't all things to all men. Confidence, it appears, is in the eye of the beholder. Even worse, confidence can easily be misconstrued so one has to tread carefully. The point is not confidence itself, but its easier to define by its opposite, fear. Fear in men is not attractive. Fear defines a man as not knowing his own value, lacking a feeling of self worth, not being sure of his abilities, lacking in presence and determination. This I may add is very different from justifiable fear that we all face.

Okay, back to confidence. Men are attractive when they are confident said one friend. Another told me, "ooh a confident man makes me go weak at the knees". So I pressed them further. A confident man it seems is one who carries with him a self-assuredness that is most definitely not arrogance. It is a state where a man feels sure of himself and his abilities, knows what he is about, knows himself for what he can do,, what he may be able to do, what he may fail at but does not fear to try. A confident man is in control of his destiny, his future, his career, his day. And to many women that is very attractive.

After all, a woman is looking for a partner, one who will not only match with her mentally and physically, but someone who can drive her onwards, someone who has ambition and vitality, someone who can pass hi self assuredness on to her. A man who is confident is sexy because he is comfortable with himself, he is in control and he is able to make decisions, good decisions. He is confident in the choices he makes and in choosing you (maybe really you selected him), he passes this feeling of being special on to you. Being selected by the right man can be very sexy indeed.

How To Use Body Language

2008-07-31T08:35:00.000-07:00

This is the language where you don't need any words. Women have been doing it for hundreds of years - to attract the man they want. Becoming fluent in body language will ensure that you will be skilled in attracting the right man, and sending the get-lost signal to the wrong man.

Eyeing Up the Prize

The more eye contact you establish with the target, the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then, begin with direct eye contact. Once he turns to meet your gaze, immediately lower your eyes and smile to yourself, this will tell him that you were watching him and are embarrassed that he caught you - a sure sign of interest. Next, be bold and try holding his stare, flashing a small, open-lipped smile.

If there is a man that is giving you the eye and you are not interested, look away from him and don`t look back at him again. When in conversation, looking at the ceiling and all around the room, also shows a definite lack of interest.

First Impressions Count

You leave your home ready to go to a party when you spot your gorgeous neighbor, and he doesn't give you a second glance. Why? Because you aren't dressed your best. When you enter a room, most people look to see who has come in. This is when you have to make an impression. Looking your best will make you feel your best. So make sure that before you leave your front door, look your best, and you never know you might just attract the attention of that gorgeous neighbor.

The Hand Job (no, not what you are thinking!)

Even without direct contact, your hands can send very powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands unclenched shows you're open to him. Using your hands to caress objects, such as the rim of your glass, locks of your hair, or the sleeve of your blouse, in a rhythmic (as opposed to fidgety) manner, can be a sensual act. And for the braver hands, try picking fluff off his jacket, touching him to punctuate a point, or using the "accidental touch" when reaching for the salt.

Hands that are jammed in pockets, busy cleaning glasses, or balled in tight fists are all bad signs. Fingers tapping, drumming, pointing, or wagging are also signals to move on.

Stand Out

Your posture is one of the most telling signals you transmit. An open posture is evidence of an open person. Turning your body toward the man you're conversing with, keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward are actions that show interest. As well, slightly tilting your head, crossing and uncrossing your legs, and thrusting your chest forward give the message that you are interested.

As for ways to send a man packing, crossing your arms, holding a drink high in front of you, turning your body away or resting your feet on their toes will tell a person you are not interested.

A Few Extra Tips

Hopefully by now, you have an attack plan and a clear idea of when it's time to get down and dirty, or when you're best just to wave the white flag. Here are just a few more tips when trying to perfect your body language skills:

You'll know things are going really well when you begin "mirroring" one another's body language and gestures.

Don`t tease him by offering more than you plan to follow through. This can lead to very ugly circumstances.

Chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having eyes only for your plate of food will not put you in the best standing for the body language game.

If you try your hand at it, and he's not responding, abort the mission immediately.…

Following him around all night will only serve in making you look needy and desperate.

And finally, if all else fails, buy yourself a T-shirt that reads, "Looking for Love.

Safe Dating Tips for Single Women and Men

2008-07-31T08:31:00.000-07:00

You know, online dating on the web is generally extremely safe, especially friendly and great fun and Top Dating Tips.com is committed to ensuring that it stays that way. It is safe dating because it is distance dating - simple. You do not come into contact with others initially and this may well provide you with a comfort factor that also allows you to pace yourself and be rightly choosey.

If possible though, you should try and follow a few basic online safe dating principles before deciding to pass over personal contact information to a relative stranger or arrange to meet them. It's all too easy to get a little carried away when viewing personal ads so take things slowly and take a rain check every now and again. The tips here are from LoveBrowser.com. They may appear obvious to you but we think that if you do try and follow them, it can only assist you in ensuring you have happy online dating experiences. And you never know, Mr. or Miss Right may be just round the corner. We really hope so.

Always trust your instinct, after all it has got you this far in life already.
Take your time and view plenty of personal ads first.
Do not publish your phone number or email address in personal ads.
Don't take everything at face value.
Do ask lots of questions when chatting.
Ensure you feel comfortable at all times whoever you are chatting with.
If someone is abusive to you, block them straight away.
Don't provide your home or work address to anyone you have not met.
Before agreeing to a date, check that you know as much as possible

Don't allow yourself to be talked into anything, whatsoever! You are the one in charge.

Also consider the following:

Take your time to get to know someone. Don't be rushed
A patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready to meet
Make sure you see plenty of photos if possible of the person you make friends with
Ask your date to leave a message in your voicemail box before hand if possible
Chat on the phone for a while before arranging a date, get to know each other
Always meet in a public place that is well known and convenient to you
Always tell a good friend where you are going, and who you are meeting
If possible phone your friend during the date to confirm all is fine

And perhaps consider these points too:

Always carry a cellular phone on a date if you have one
Lunchtimes are good for dating, convenient, and they have a time limit
Always make your own travel arrangements on a date initially
Do not accept a lift home on the first date or reveal your address
If travelling far, organize your own accommodation and confirm it
Ensure you have as much information about your date as possible
Keep your first date to a time limit so that you have an "exit" point
Don't feel you owe it to someone to meet them, you do not!

Tips for The End Of a Date

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1. If you really didn't have a great time, you can always end the date early by being truthful and call an end to proceedings by saying you have an urgent meeting, phone call, appointment etc. Whilst your date will not be a fool, they will understand what you are trying to say. Better still, simply be kind but truthful and point out that you don't think you will be an ideal match and that you have had a lovely evening but that is all there is to it.

2. Never allow someone to believe there is more on offer than there really is. Do not keep your options open with someone if you don't intend to call them. It is always better to end the date as a full-stop than to keep someone hanging on for weeks afterwards. So don't falsely keep someone's hopes up, ever.

3. If you are a guy you are paying the bill or getting the check, whatever you believe. This is not the moment to start quibbling over who had what from the menu and splitting things. The age of chivalry is not dead and you had the company of the lady this evening, therefore it is your task to leave an excellent and chivalrous image by getting out your credit card.

4. If the lady insists on paying half, this is often the sign of a no-strings-attached evening out and that she prefers to leave things in a very even way. If she wants to do this, it is up to you whether you wish to accept.

5. Do not be planning deep throat kissing and sex immediately after unless it really is on the cards for both of you. And even then, remember that you should be planning to retain your enigma at least for a few dates yet so resolve not to get into bed just yet. As a guy you should be planning to see her to her cab and then give her a small kiss on the cheek.

6. If you like your date, tell them. You don't need to be explicit but you don't need to be coy either. If you enjoyed their company be forthright and confident and tell them that you would look forward to spending more time in their company very soon. If you can arrange a second date at this stage, then do so but only if you are serious. People do not like being made a fool of or being let down.

7. Do not try to avoid hurting someone's feelings by pretending you like them more than you really do. If you had a good time but won't be seeing them again then better to leave things like that.

8. Keep things relaxed, fun and casual and if you feel they are less interested than you, then keep things open-ended and optional. That way your date will have time to reconsider.

9. If you are a guy see your date safely to a cab or her car and do not make her feel any pressure whatsoever. If you are a girl then ensure you feel comfortable with this happening. If you prefer to see yourself to a cab then do so.

10. Always remember that dating is a stage by stage process and nothing rarely happens instantly. Therefore the first date was exactly that with hopefully many more to follow.

11. And finally but perhaps controversially, don't offer friendship as substitute. This is a date and has it's basis in romance. Ultimately you will find friends in many different places, but you should view dating as the possibility of establishing romance as your foremost priority.

Flirting Tips Help You Show Interest

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Eye Contact

Pupils are dilated and eye contact is maintained
Eye contact combined with an arched eye brow
Any form of winking
Rapid eye movement and blinking
Eye contact where the gaze is held longer than usual. Men normally look away.

Hair and Mouth

Playing with hair in a stroking or toying motion
Eye contact whilst playing with hair
Touching your hair at any time
Lots of smiling, open mouthed and teeth flashing
Lip licking
Puckering lips in a simulated kiss form
Any form of touch of the lips or teeth with tongue

Body Movement

The thrusting of chest or breasts outwards whilst holding your gaze
The copying of your posture - mirroring
Holding your gaze whilst moving to music
Using a posture with legs crossed towards you
Leaning in towards you whilst holding your gaze
Open legged posture facing you
The display of flesh of arm or thigh

Touching

They will want to touch you and will reach out to do so with some excuse
They will offer to place food in your mouth as if feeding you
They will play with their hands and then with yours

The Way they Speak

Their tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own
Lots of laughter and questioning tones
In a group, you are singled out by this person for attention even in general conversation and questions. This happened to me in New York and I was taken aback how obvious it was.

The Top 10 Useful Dating Tips

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You are looking for love, passion and emotional support in their all kind of relationship. You are not born to live a lone life. You need to choose your life partner based on reality not dream.

Love and romance in your life is different from Hollywood movie. All love and marriage relationship blossoms based on trust, respect and friendship. Love at first sight, dancing across the bushes and garden are the dreams, looking at the setting sun with hands in hands from the hillock are the dreams of Hollywood only.

No prince will come from a mystic land on a white horse to take you a dreamland. You need to build a relation with love, care and respect. Instead of waiting for love, go and find your love on realistic assumption.

You can find your partner from on line dating site or from direct dating services. Make a strategy after understanding what you are looking for in your relation. You are doing dating with opposite sex to build a long-term relation of love not only for sex.

People who register on dating sites are everyday men and women. Large number of them are educated, professionals and also established.

So take a decision and visit online dating direct sites. Understand how dating direct can help you. Please check out the credentials before you are neck deep in the relationship.

Please publish an honest online profile. A true add will do 50% of your work. You will make your first impression through your ad. Your ad should be truthful but attractive. Imagine the situation while yours would be partner will read your ad how he or she should feel. You need to write to generate that feeling.

Ask yourself what you are looking for in your partner and publish the same detailed list in companion wanted section. Please be specific on what you like and what you dislike. This will help dating service providers to give you a proper matching list.

Learn how to make a date successful by practicing and rehearsing.

Before you go out for the dating, spend some time in on line chat and phone

The key to success is to convey feelings unambiguously and in an impressive way. But avoid being possessive and avoid past relationships or children I initial days. Know the past of your partner and take care that you should not discuss the same and do not allow the same to happen once again.

Dating is an important part of your life but not the only one. Take care of your jobs, investment, financial planning etc. Take a realistic and positive approach to dating. You are an individual so you also need to care of your career, hobbies, and social activities in addition to dating.

Master the art of flirting in cyber world. Please don’t come on too strong. Tease but don’t make yourself cheap or easy.

To be successful I on line dating you may need to view as many as 100 profiles each month. Please be ready to invest time and energy in this Endeavor.

Try to find a match that has something in common with you. Take the entire process seriously and confidently. It is better to go slowly unless you are 100% sure about the credential of your partner in the relationship.

If you put sincere effort, you can find your partner and make life full of passion. Love is something, which you need to give first. More you love your partner from the bottom of your heart, more you will get. A selfish giant can never get the love.

Online Dating Secrets Revealed

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The personal profile that you post onto an online dating site is the key to attracting and meeting the right person. Many of you guys have had the experience of having a woman answer your online dating profile, or reply to an email you sent her after she gave you her email address, only to be constantly frustrated by not being able to get her on the phone. If you are single, you have no doubt realized the difficulty of obtaining quality material and advice on online dating.

So if you are busy and don’t have enough time to be out socializing on a Friday or Saturday night and you want to try your hand at online dating, you should keep in mind the two most important things online single people are looking for in a potential date - a great personality and a sense of humor. By making a few simple changes to the way you are dating online, you could see instant results meeting people you would never have met before so don’t be a wallflower, stand out online and be proactive in your search for a date. Whilst some sites, like eHarmony, claim to have a scientific method for matching people, allegedly resulting in more successful and longer lasting marriages, the simple fact is that online dating, in its variety of forms, has opened up a whole new world of possibilities for those looking for a potential mate.

It shows a lot to a potential suitor while they peruse the online dating services that someone has taken the time to spell check their document. What this line does say to someone checking you out is that the online dating service profiler didn’t do a lot of thinking about how they wanted to present themselves. Just because online dating is carried out in the comfort of your home, it doesn’t mean you can’t involve your friends, as you would normally do if you were looking to meet someone at work or in a pub.

So the next time you talk to your friends instead of asking if they want to go to the pub, ask if they would like to join you on a dating site so you can find love online together; the chances are they were thinking about it anyway but needed some encouragement from a friend. Verifying Who They Are If you feel the need to, you can ask for references from your online friends - work, friends and family before you meet in the real world. Once you feel comfortable with the online dating sites that appeal to you most, then the next step is to also utilize any free personals their offering, and carefully read their policy online, and what the costs are if you were to go from your free service to a paid membership.

If your goals are to find a date online, then really understand the difference between a personals site, and dating services sites. Another way to find good dating sites is by asking friends and co-workers who may have tried, or are using online dating or personals services. Be patient, it takes time to find someone special when using online dating sites and dating services.

The main format for Jewish dating sites is the same as most online dating services. Most online dating services will allow you to contact other members for free by sending a Hi, Virtual Kiss, Icebreaker or Smile - an expression of interest, to which the other member can respond. To include as much information in your newspaper ad as you can in your online ad would cost you a fortune - and most dating sites will allow you to place your ad for free.

Sexually Stimulating Herbs

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Herbs have been used in all cultures around the world to stimulate erotic arousal, physical sexual feelings and sexual abilities. In the modern world herbs are increasingly more used both to increase the sexual pleasure and as medicine to help for sexual dysfunctions. The herbs are used both in their original form or the working substances are extracted and used as ingredients in tinctures, ointments or pills.
THE GENERAL PRINCIPLES OF EROTICALLY STIMULATING HERBS

The working principles of the chemical components in these herbs are of several kinds, and the ingredients make their effects at different places in the human body.

- Some herbal ingredients stimulate generally the function of the neural system. Since sexual response and feelings are dependent of a well working neural system, the herbs will also increase the sexual response.

- Other herbal ingredients generally improve the body’s blood circulation. The better blood flow and the better control of the blood flow will then make the genital organs work better and engorge better upon sexual stimulation. Better engorgement will stimulate the feeling bodies at the nerve endings in the sexual organs and thus give stronger physical feelings.

- There are components in some herbs that stimulate tissue growth and regeneration. Such components can make structures in the sexual organs grow stronger and more capable to do their work.

- Some herbal ingredients stimulate directly centres in the central nervous system that play an important role in the sexual response, and thus increase the psychological arousal. A higher psychological arousal will cause signals to be sent to the sexual organs so that they will engorge more strongly and produce more sexual secretions.

- Still other herbal components stimulate the feeling bodies in the genital organs directly, and will thereby give stronger physical feelings. The stimulation of the feeling bodies will also make the central nervous system send signals back to the sexual organs and make them work more efficient.

- Some herbal ingredients will stimulate the production of sexual hormones or other hormones important for the sexual functions, or they will normalize a disturbed hormonal system.

SOME IMPORTANT HERBS USED FOR SEXUAL STIMULATION

Here are some important sexually stimulating herbs presented. Many of the herbs stimulate the human organism at several points and thus have more than one type of effect. Where not otherwise indicated, both men and women will feel the stimulating effect.

- Bayberry: The fruits increase blood flow and capillary dilation in the mucus membranes of the vagina, and thus stimulate vaginal lubrication.

- Catuaba: Catuaba is a South American bush. It has long been used as an aphrodisiac by Indians, and is the most important sexually stimulating plant used in South America nowadays. Catuaba generally stimulates the central nervous system, and especially the functions controlling sexual response.

- Cayenne (Cayenne pepper, Spanish pepper): From the fruit one gets a well known spice with a very strong taste. The spice stimulates tissue growth and regeneration. This will make the sexual organs stronger and more efficient. Cayenne also makes the digestion and intestinal functions more effective and promotes heart functions.

- Coffee or tea stimulates the central nervous system to a higher activity and thereby also the sexual arousal. Taking a cup of coffee before sexual activity is often a good idea.

- Cuscuta: The seeds of cuscuta stimulate and normalizes the part of the nervous system that controls the sexual organs. This effect helps control premature ejaculation, helps control urination and vitalizes the functions of the sexual organs. It also has a general stimulating effect upon the nervous system.

- Damiana: Damiana is a small Mexican shrub, of which the leaves are used for medical purposes. Damiana stimulates the function of the sympathetic nerves controlling the sexual organs, the urinary system, the digestive organs and the respiratory organs. The herb thus strengthens all the functions of the sexual organs and urinary system. The herbs have many of the same effects as the female hormone progesterone, and therefore the herb works especially effective for women.

- Ginseng: There are many species of the herb ginseng, growing both in East Asia and Northern America. Ginseng stimulates neural functions and bodily activities. Ginseng stimulates and normalizes the blood flow in the brain and sexual organs. Ginseng also stimulates nerve growth, blood production and sperm production. This stimulation will in turn give a general rejuvenating effect, stronger arousal, better genital functions and stronger physical feelings.

- Hawthorn: Hawthorn is a tree growing in all temperate zones of the world. The fruits are used. Hawthorn stimulates heart functions and blood flow, and helps to reduce atherosclerotic plaque in blood vessels. This general positive effect upon blood circulation will in turn improve sexual functions as for example female engorgement and male erection.

- Horny goat weed (Epidemium): This is an East Asian herb. The whole plant except the root is used in herbal preparations. This herb stimulates the sensorial bodies in the sexual organs, giving stronger genital feelings. It also increases sperm production, giving better fertility. It further stimulates sexual desire by acting upon the central nervous system. The herb also increases the general activity of the nervous system and thereby the general vitality.

- Johimbe; Johimbe is a tall and evergreen tree growing in tropical areas of Africa. The bark stimulates the blood flow in the genitals and therefore helps against erection problems. However, in higher doses the drug can cause hypertension, digestive problems and manic reactions.

- Maca; This South American herb stimulates sexual desire and drive.

- Muira Pauma: Muria Puama is a Brazilian shrub, known as “Potency Wood”. Extracts of the bark is used. Muira Puama stimulates sexual desire and libido, and thereby increases potency.

- Suma: Suma root stimulates and normalizes the hormone production of the whole body, both the production of systemic hormones and local hormones. The improved hormonal system will then improve mental and physical sexual functions.

- Peppermint: Leaves of the peppermint plant stimulate the secretion of lubricating substances in the genital system. This facilitates the sexual act and protects the sexual organ against injury.

On the market you can find pills, tinctures or teas made of one or more of these herbs. What herbs or herbal product you should choose, depend on your purpose. The purposes are generally of 6 kinds:

- Increased libido or sexual desire. - Increased feelings in the genital region. - Better erection or sexual performance. - Better lubrication. - Increased strength or size of the genitals. - Increased fertility.

The G-Spot - How To Stimulate It For Maximum Pleasure

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In earlier articles we explained how to locate a woman’s G-spot. Now that you can find it, there are special sexual positions to learn that once assumed, will stimulate it, and bring the woman into spasms of ecstasy.

These positions once mastered, will also make the man an indispensable lover.
Please read our earlier articles on location of the G-spot, as it is not easily found unless you know where and how to locate it.

Ernst Graftenburg was a German doctor that actually discovered this area, and it is named after him, the g spot. Within the woman’s vagina, the g-spot is an area on the front wall, not far from the actual vagina opening.

The stimulation that is effective for the g-spot is a constant and firm pressure, which usually evokes a strong and profound orgasm in the woman.

Assuming you know where it is, you have understood that is corresponds precisely to that area where the urethra is most near to the top of the wall of the vagina.

It is interesting to note that each woman has some variety in where her g-spot is located, so the man must do some research to locate exactly where his partner’s g-spot is.

This is done by the man first lubricating his index and middle fingers, and slowly inserting them into a similarly lubricated vagina.

The fingers are inserted with the palm side facing the outside. At the top of the vagina’s wall, at about perpendicular with the urethra, the man will feel a sort of lattice-work area (rough and lenticular tissue).

In the midst of the lattice-work is the g-spot and use feedback from your partner to confirm you have actually located it.

Here follows three excellent positions that provide for maximum g-spot stimulation.

* While performing cunnilingus, it’s a perfect time to simultaneously stimulate the g-spot.

Again with the man’s index and middle finger inserted into the vagina (while the man’s tongue is performing cunnilingus) and using the come here motion locate and touch the g-spot.

Use steady firm but not too firm pressure.

With the action on the clitoris (from the cunnilingus) and pressure to the g-spot, both partners can assured of both a profound and extensive woman’s orgasm.

Note, this will take approximately 20 minutes.

* Another method which is sure to succeed is during intercourse, for the woman to mount the man, but not sit straight, but to lay directly on the man.

The woman will be able to manipulate her position so there is direct pressure to the g-spot. The man has nothing at all to do except maintain his erection, and let the woman move into position.

Once there the man can press slightly with his hips to increase the pressure from his erect penis.

Orgasms, are often simultaneous with both partners quickly follows.

* The g-spot can also be greatly stimulated by the couple finding a swimming pool that allows privacy.

The man stands in the water at the shallow end, and the woman sits on the edge of the rim of the pool.

She slides her legs into the water, and positions herself just enough so the man can enter her.

The man’s penis will be directed at this angle directly to the g-spot. The woman or the man can gyrate but not thrust. The g-spot is better stimulated by constant and persistent localized pressure. Mutual orgasms are sure to follow.

The G spot is a wonder of the female anatomy find out how to locate and then stimulate it and you will give your partner the ultimate in pleasure and satisfaction.

The G-Spot - A Womans Trigger for Mind Blowing Orgasms

2007-12-19T07:06:00.000-08:00

The G-spot? Do you know what it is? Where it is? This small article may change your sex life for the better and for good!

Read on and in a few moments you will know all you need to know about a woman’s G-spot and what do with it.

Ernst Graftenburg, a German gynecologist discovered the location of a highly sensitive area within the woman’s vagina. It is named the G-spot in his honor.

Actually the G-spot is on the front wall of the vagina, about 10 centimeters towards the top of the wall. Graftenburg discovered that just simple and constant pressure stimulation to that area can produce an orgasm.

Anatomically the g-spot is precisely opposite an area wherein the urethra is at its closest to the top of the vaginal wall.

Each woman will have her own special area where the G-spot can be precisely located, so it bears some careful investigation.

To find the g-spot, a woman must be relaxed and comfortable. She must allow you to insert two fingers into her vagina. Once inside (and it’s better if you have your fingers lubricated), touch the top of the vaginal wall. There you will soon find an area that is not smooth, but is ribbed with some muscle tissue. If you feel it, you are on the g-spot. Do not exert too much pressure, or you will cause the woman pain and discomfort. However, some firm and constant pressure will soon show you are on the correct area, as the woman will respond very positively.

So, having found the g-spot, what to do now?

* As your fingers are already in position, begin a session of cunnilingus. With pressure on the g-spot and stimulation simultaneously to the clitoris produces the most ecstatic pleasure to almost any woman. You can move your fingers over the g-spot in a come here! motion, while you continue the cunnilingus.

Do not stop either the cunnilingus or the moving of the fingers over the g-spot till the woman arrives at her orgasm. You will hear some warning signs by groaning and pre-orgasmic uterine spasms.

Do not stop at this point, but continue. The woman’s back will arch and hips rise off the bed, but push them down and continue.

* Another way to stimulate the g-spot is to have the woman-on-top during intercourse. She will find the g-spot herself, naturally, and direct your erect penis to that area herself.

Her motion and rising and falling on your penis will be, without doubt, g-spot oriented. Her orgasm will be enhanced by also the clitoral stimulation by rubbing her pubic area against yours.

* Strangely enough, the rear entry sexual position called doggy-style has a wonderful way to stimulate the g-spot. The trusting must be slow and regular, with alternating short and long trusts.

This is a pure sex position with very little ability to fondle, but if the man is able to delay his own orgasm, he will be able to bring great pleasure to his partner.

Do not underestimate the real power of the g-spot in this position.

The g spot is steeped in mystery but all women have one and when you find it and stimulate it correctly your partner will be very gratefull.

Beyond the G-Spot- Secrets of the Female Human Body & The U Spot

2007-12-19T07:04:00.001-08:00

There has much been written about the G-Spot (named after its discoverer, Grafenburg). It is an area within the woman’s vagina that, when stimulated, can bring intense pleasure.

Now due to the advances in non-invasive anatomical investigation with MRIs, CAT scanners, and other highly sensitive investigative instruments, the human form is revealing more of its secrets.
Here we examine two newly discovered pleasure areas within the general area of the female genital zone.

The U-Spot.

The U-spot is a small area of highly sensitive erectile tissue located just above and on both sides of the urethral opening.

Some American clinical researchers have recently discovered this aera, and proved that if it was stimulated by caress, with the tongue, the head of the penis, or even a lubricated finger, it brought an unexpected and highly intense erotic response.

This is not the urithiral opening, but just above and to ether side of it.

There is no U-spot underneath the urithra towards the vagina. Care should be taken when attempting to stimulate it, and ask for feedback from your partner.

The Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (also known as the A-Spot or T-Spot ,or just AFE)

Recently a Malaysian physician reported the existence of a highly sensitive erotic area just above the cervix, at the innermost point of the vagina. The cervix is a part of the uterus that extends slightly into the vagina.

As it so extends, it leaves a depressed circular area, technically called the anterior fornix. Tests have shown that pressure on this area causes the vagina to lubricate very quickly.

In fact, direct stimulation of the AFE zone can cause immediate and profound contractions only found in orgasm. Some anatomists say the AFE zone is really a evolutionary degenerated prostate, homologous to a man’s prostate gland that would be located in just about the same place.

The AFE - Zone and Erotic Pleasure

Technically, the AFE Zone is a vortex of the nerves that carry information from your whole genital to the spinal cord and brain. These nerves, when stimulated, send arousal signals to the part of your nervous system which enhances engorgement of appropriate areas, ans is responsible then for sexual arousal.

This is also true for women that normally are not sexually responsive. Obviously the most easy way to locate the AFE zone is to slide the fingers halfway up the posterior vaginal wall you will find a larger area than the G-spot, which is slightly rougher than the normal vaginal wall.

Recently specially shaped vibrators (long, then and with the neck bent in an oblique way) have come onto the marketplace which are meant for self-stimulation of the AFE zone.

Size Matters?

This is long-standing debate on the benefits or deficiencies of a large and long penis. In the case of the AFE zone, no matter the size of a man’s penis, he must be experienced to find, and then stimulate the AFE zone.

For the man with a shorter penis, there are some advantagous positions to shorten the woman’s uterous, and thus still find a way to stimulate the AFE zone as well.

The use of the advanced missionary, where the woman will have her legs drawn to her breast, with the man’s arms both holding her legs apart, and suspending himself, will create, even if he is short and small of penile stature, complete penetration and stimulation of the AFE zone.

Due to small depression at its location, and roughness of the area, it also provides some intense pleasure for the man as well.

G Spot - Techniques To Find It and Please Your Partner

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Women can orgasm several different ways, via clitoral, vaginal, and of course the G-Spot, the latter can give her a massively satisfying orgasm if stimulated correctly.

Here we will look at how to find it and give your partner immense pleasure once you do!

Where is the G Spot?
The G-Spot is the area to target for maximum sexual arousal.

You will be able to help give added pleasure and a mind blowing climax to your partner if you can locate and stimulate it.

The G-Spot is essentially a bean shaped area of nerve tissue, located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the top of a women’s cervix.

The size and location of the G-Spot will vary between women, but it usually lies about 1.5 to 3 inside the vagina.

This area inside the vagina has a different texture; it’s ridged, not smooth like the rest of the vagina, and when aroused has a spongy feel.

The G-Spot is not easily located. Sometimes even women have a hard time finding it and some don’t even believe it exists, but it does.

All you need to do is to locate it and arouse it and with a little trial and error between you and your partner you can.

Locating the G Spot

To explore and find the G spot, have your partner lie down, knees bent and feet flat on the floor or bed, with a pillow under her buttocks for comfort.

Insert your fingers into her vagina towards her navel. This will be between 1.5 - 3 inches inside the vagina to find the exact spot.

Press with the fingers against the front wall of the vagina. As it’s surrounded by tissue and deep in the vaginal wall, you will need to apply a little pressure. When you finally hit the right spot, it will swell the same way a penis does.

Slide your fingers from side to side. Have your partner tell you when you hit the right place and you she will know, as you will see the reaction when you hit it!

G Spot Technique

When you have found it move your fingers in even circles all around the inside of the vagina walls.

It generally feels best for her if you keep consistent, firm pressure along the entire length of the vaginal walls and use a steady rotational rhythm.

Stop rotating your fingers and rest your fingertips on the ridged area of the G Spot. Then move the fingers in and out and do rotational movements to keep hitting the spot.

Finding a rhythm is what you are looking for here; keep moving the fingers in and out and around constantly hitting the G Spot.

You can give your partner even more pleasure by licking her clitoris and stimulating her G-Spot at the same time, to give her an amazing climax.

Stimulating the G Spot to the level where it will ejaculate requires three components:

1. Time: Needs to be taken to work your partner up

2. Gentle attention: Listen to your partner and find out what gives her pleasure.

3. Tapping: Keep constantly tapping the G-spot while you are moving your fingers.

Penis stimulation

Penises curve and the ones that curve upwards are most likely to hit the G territory. However if your penis curves to the left or the right, all is not lost!

There are options!

If your penis curves to the left, right or to the south, you can position yourself in such a way that your penis hits the spot i.e you need to be in a position where your penis points north.

For example, if your penis curves to the side. You lie horizontally, she lies vertically and you gain the same impact and will be able to hit her G Spot

If your penis curves downwards, place her on top of you but facing the other way, you will see her buttocks and then move to hit the G spot. Other methods of stimulation

There are a number of adult toys such as vibrators etc that are designed to hit and stimulate the G Spot and the huge variety out there means there is one for every women.

Finally…

The G Spot is there in women all you have to do is find it and stimulate it to give your partner huge pleasure. There is a lot of mystique related to the spot but to find the G spot and give your partner pleasure is really all about communication.

She will be able to guide you and all you need to do is follow her instructions have patience and find out what’s right for her.

If you do, you will add another dimension to your relationship and your partner will be very grateful for your effort!

Always Love the Lady of Your Life - She May be the Sexiest

2007-12-19T06:53:00.000-08:00

Research says that fire of sex is in your mind. It is neither in your groin nor in the body of a woman. The lady whom you passionately love will engulf your body with sexual lust. Whether she is physically like a model or actress doesn’t matter.

It is often said that Americans are lousy lovers. Commitment is boring for them, and they have got a bad habit of scattering their love. Most of the people in America think it is fun. But when you use your senses you can easily understand the truth behind the mask. Lousy lovers wander for fun but they rarely feel contented. Moreover they miss the real fun - the fun of deep intimacy and intimate sex. It is also good for your health (physical as well as psychological) :

1. Your immune system gets constant boost making you less prone to diseases, 2. You remain free from the terror of AIDS and other dangerous sexual diseases which turn your life into a hell, 3. You can concentrate more to your career, 4. You can enjoy other funs of life in a better way - having fun with a dedicated family is one of the best, 5. Committed lovers are more relaxed, 6. Your children have a better life as they get a secure love of both parents.

So becoming a lousy lover is a dangerous fun which may end any time giving you life long scars. When both of you are committed to each other you become the sexiest - swimming in a never ending sexual thrill. You can’t understand it till you live such a life yourself.

I am sure Americans will lead a new revolution of old time love and close-knitted family. And ladies are wonderful. Just love one of them deeply and she will definitely return it with all her might.

How To Last Longer In Bed Tips

2007-12-19T06:44:00.000-08:00

Do you worry about your performance in bed - That you can’t achieve the satisfaction you want or find that you cannot satisfy your partner?

If so, this article is for you and will help you last longer in bed and achieve greater pleasure for both you and your partner.

The major point to keep in mind with sex is that it is an intense emotional and physical experience and to achieve great sex your mind and body need to work together.

1. Relax

If you feel under pressure to perform, anxiety will definitely affect your performance and you will end up trying to hard and will fail to achieve satisfaction for both you and your partner.

Not being relaxed is a total passion killer.

For good sex and lasting longer in bed, you need to be totally relaxed, free your mind and concentrate only on the sexual act.

2. Go Slowly

The number one way to last longer in bed is simply to go slower.

Not only will this help you relax, it will make your body and your partners more responsive to touch.

Take it all slowly (not just the sex act) but also all the foreplay that precedes the act of sex.

This will help relax and connect you to your partner and let sexual energy flow free.

3. Deepen your breathing.

Breathing correctly is a great way to connect ourselves with our bodies (this has been used for centuries in Eastern society) and to relax and achieve connection between mind, body and soul and you should use it to.

Try deep slow breathing in rhythm with your partner’s breathing. This simple tip will give huge pleasure to both of you.

4. The whole experience is important

Sex is not about simply achieving orgasm. It is about the whole experience and all the pleasure that precedes the final ending.

The most important element of sex is the overall experience not just achieving orgasm.

Sex gives us pleasure in numerous ways and our bodies simply love the whole experience.

5. Communicate With Your Partner

Don’t be afraid to ask your partner what she likes and you should do the same with her.

Keep in mind all people are different. we have certain acts that turn us on and turn us off, so it’s important to know what gives each of you pleasure.

Every time you have sex you should try new and different things and improve on the things you have learned.

Many partners never satisfy themselves or their partners. This is simply down to a lack of communication.

6. Guilt

If for any reason you attach shame or guilt to sex, you will not feel relaxed and will not achieve satisfaction.

Sex is one of the great gifts to you and everyone and should be enjoyed.

Focus only on the positive aspects (and there are many) and you will achieve love and satisfaction.

7. Feelings From Within

Sex is both a physical and emotional experience and you need to feel both.

Let your consciousness move from your mind to your body and focus on feeling your sexual energy coming from within your being.

You will then are focused purely on sexual union and the pleasure and free your mind from all other thoughts.

8. Good Sex Can take Time

There is a lot to learn about sex the best positions, foreplay etc and we have covered them in our other articles (sorry not enough room here!) but to conclude you can learn a lot about your body and your partners and this will enhance your sex life.

Good sex can take time and all men are capable of lasting longer in bed.

Sure, you may need a bit of practice and some time to achieve satisfaction with your partner, but the practice will be fun!

Fashion And Love

2007-12-19T06:42:00.000-08:00

Fashion, fashion, fashion - what is it? Fashion, of course, is what we see in fashion magazines and designer shop windows, but it is all there is to it? Don’t be misled. Fashion is also part of your life and not only to do with shopping and expensive boutiques. There are different aspects to it. First of all, not everything that is in fashion suits everyone and what suits one person might not suit another. Similarly, what looks beautiful in one situation might not look it in another. Furthermore, fashion is not only clothes; fashion is also style and personality.

This is where the phenomenon of mimicry comes in. Blind mimicry is distortion of fashion. There is always en extent to which one can and should follow the trends. At a certain point, your personality gives way. Do not miss out on that. This what really makes you look special and unique. It is especially painful to see fuller women squeeze into clothes that they bulge out of in order to look thinner. It is also uncomfortable to look at middle aged women trying to emulate fifteen year old anorexic models. No matter how thin your waist is, you will never be able to mask wrinkles and slight bodily deformities caused by age. What is left to do? Be yourself.

In all cases, it is important to wear clothes that would not make you look too young or too thin and which would make you feel relaxed, unrestrained and confident. How do you look for such clothes? First you have to deal with yourself. Ask yourself who you are, what your character is like. Are you open? Do you like change? Are you active, or, on the contrary, not so? What is your occupation like?

When you see a woman wearing an eccentric red dress in the middle of the day, with the hair dyed red, you probably think that she has a mild psychological problem - lacking in balance, maybe a bit hysterical. And here is a middle aged woman (maybe a little on the big side, but it only adds to her femininity). She is wearing a free style dress made of natural material that does not get in her way. One would say classical style with elements of contemporary fashion. She looks original, move freely, and confidently. She is obviously enjoying herself, does not worry about taking her tummy in to conceal a recent meal or to avoid discomfort of an overly tight dress. This woman emanates harmony and tranquility. People usually like women like that and admire them. It has always been true that the best looking and most fashionable people are those in harmony with themselves and others. These are people who look after their bodies, but also their minds. Making sure that stress does not rule you over plays an important role. Forgetting and forgiving other people frees you from additional, unnecessary stress and saves your precious face from one more age mark. A daily walk in the forest or down the nearest toe path after work will not only fill your lungs with oxygen and air your head, but relax your body and mind and put a smile as well as a tranquil look on your face. Do not underestimate psychological wellbeing; it is a huge part of your good looks. Every bad thought results in an unpleasant feeling and consequently leads to bad behavior, which probably puts a new wrinkle on your face. People, who do not love themselves, do not love others.

Thus, in order to be loved and look good you have to be yourself, cherish what is beautiful in you not forgetting that you are already unique and you just have to let it show. Be natural in life, always work on your inner self and be better inside. The inner beauty shines through and on to your body. The only thing you have left to do then is give it an elegant and cozy touch with your stylish and characteristic clothes. If you feel comfortable and confident, people around you will feel this way too. You will always be not only fashionable but loving and loved too.

How to Approach Women Without Fear

2007-12-19T06:37:00.000-08:00

Indisputably, the biggest problem that faces the new pick-up artist is anxiety that comes from approaching a woman he desires. There have been quite a few explanations for this, ranging from tribal history that has been implanted in our genes, to societal programming on what is right and wrong for us to do.

Put simply, we just happen to desire social acceptance more than anything else that does not physically keep us alive. We want our family to be proud of us, our friends and acquaintances to respect and include us, and the rest of the world to desire us.

What’s the opposite of acceptance? Rejection. And that’s what we’re afraid of.

I’m going to give you some powerful techniques to eradicate this fear’s hold on your life, but before that, I want to discuss the root of this in depth for you.

We’re going to call a girl or group not being interested as something other than rejection or getting rejected. After all, you didn’t get rejected. Your approach did. If you went in differently, the reaction would have been different. We’re going to call it getting blown out or a blow-out. This is because while the set didn’t know enough about you to reject you personally, they did express that they wanted to end the interaction.

Your use of words is very important. A good friend of mine is fond of saying, The first set of the night is always murder. Now if you’re equating talking to a girl with someone ending your life, of course you will be more than a little hesitant to make that first approach! Anthony Robbins has set up a whole system on how to use your word choice to better your life. I won’t get into it here, but in short, minimize your negative word usage, especially if you’re describing something that’s necessary for you. If you say Going to the gym is a royal pain in the ass, you probably won’t make it there very often. However, if you say Getting to the gym consistently is a challenge, it’s a lot more likely you’ll rise to the occasion. So to sum up, I NEVER want to hear you say I got rejected.

While word choice is important, a bigger issue that holds the outcome of the set. In other words, you are giving two girls thirty seconds to give a full evaluation of your value as a person and judge you accordingly. That’s a lot of power to give someone you’ve never met before.

There’s only three reasons an approach might not go well for me:

1) My game wasn’t good enough at this point to handle this particular situation

2) My game was good enough, but I made a mistake in this particular situation

3) There were extenuating circumstances that prevented success, despite that I ran a good set.

That’s it. There are no possibilities for why it can go wrong.

In my years in the game, I’ve met plenty of people that make their living teaching men how to pick-up women. These men pick-up beautiful women right in front of their students, sometimes on video-tape. Some of these guys, if you saw them, would blow your mind because they are not attractive by any standards. They have huge guts, often are balding, sometimes pasty white, and sometimes pretty short and frail. This is a hard thing to accept until you’re actually seen this, but you definitely do not need to be good looking to attract women. The point I’m trying to make is:

YOUR LOOKS ARE NOT WHAT GETS YOU BLOWN OUT.

Your game is the problem; not your looks, not your value. It’s completely dependent on your social skill-set.

When Tyler Durden makes an approach that doesn’t go well (which does happen even for the masters), he says it affects him as emotionally as if he was shooting hoops and had his hand crooked on the basketball and missed.

So you have basically three options to consider. You may have been socially miscalibrated and messed up a set you could have done well. So you learn from your mistake. It also might have been a too difficult set for you to win at this point in your learning curve. You still get mad props for going for it and you are no doubt better because you did go for it. The people that get great at pick-up constantly approach sets out of their comfort zones, where instant success is unlikely. It might be a go-go dancer swinging around a pole. It may be a beautiful girl surrounded by 7 guys. It may be a celebrity. When you’re higher in your learning curve, you’ll be able to own that set.

Until then, it’s only practice.

A great PUA named Hoobie once said that Every failure is a brick in my palace. I would change that to Every approach is a brick in my palace. The latter is more accurate, because every attempt you make at a pickup, it adds to your cumulative experience.

And of course there are situations where the set-up is precarious at best and it is near impossible to actually win the set. If a group of girls are having a girl’s night out for a friend who’s husband just cheated on her, they’re going to be giving her 100% of their attention and putting guys to the side for the night. There’s no way you would ever know that, so just be open to the possibility. This is not to say you should excuse yourself every time a set doesn’t go well. You can’t always say She must have been married. You still have personal accountability. Just let the possibility that it was an impossible set be open in the back of your mind.

Now here are some specific techniques for consistently getting approaches done each night:

? Make it a MUST that you approach a minimum of 6 sets for the night. That you literally can’t leave til you do it. Make it your goal to get blown out 6 times. Yes, no numbers, no lays, just get blown out. That way when you get blown out you’re closer to your goal.

? If you have a wing, give him 100 dollars. Have him give you 10 dollars back for each approach you do. At the end of the night, he keeps the leftover cash.

? Make it a point to say some outrageous stuff in approaches, stuff you KNOW won’t work. Every third approach or so, I will sometimes use a fun approach that I don’t’ expect to work like going up to a group of girls and saying Are you ready for the big time?

? A good exercise from Ross Jeffries is to go to a place like a shopping mall or busy street downtown and stop a girl and say Excuse me, forgive the interruption. I’m Manny Martian. What is your favorite flavored bowling ball? Now that’s not a pickup attempt, because you were not trying to seduce her. Go do that about 20 times and it should be easier. It may be better to do that one in a major city an hour or so away from where you live for that one.

You have to go BEYOND what a typical approach is before you feel comfortable with a normal approach. Once you say something ridiculous and realize you’re still alive and breathing afterwards, you can laugh it off and it’s a heck of a lot easier to ask a couple women what their opinion is on something.

* FOR NEWBIES ONLY: When you approach, touch the girls before you start talking. Like tap a shoulder. That instigates the point of no return signal that let’s you know you’re already in the interaction. When you see a set, go 3-2-1, TAP, and then they’re looking at you and you have to speak. After doing this for a few weeks though, quickly phase it out since it is NOT solid game for a proper pickup.

* Practice seeing women for as they are and not as the demi-gods we make them out to be in the field. If you see a woman in sexy bitch boots, sparkling eye shadow, and shimmering lipstick, of course all you can think of how absolutely wonderful it would be to kiss her. Now look at her and in your head take the lipstick off, as well as the rest of the make-up, and think of how she looks on laundry day. You don’t have to imagine her ugly, but just a bit plainer. That should take it down a notch.

* Lastly, be social in general with women of all shapes and sizes. The more often you talk to women outside of a pick-up session, the more natural it will be to start a conversation with any girl at a bar. Talk to fat, older and unattractive women as well.

You may always feel some jitters your first set of the night, and I know pros who feel that way after 10 years of picking up the most beautiful women. They just plow through despite the initial unpleasant feeling. And thats what a real man does: act in spite of fear, and act in spite of discomfort.

Top 2 Secret Ways To Become Irresistibly Magnetic To Your Wife

2007-12-19T06:31:00.000-08:00

According to new studies 5 out of 10 marriages will end in divorce. Without going into the typical boring drawn-out discussion on divorce, I’m going to get straight to the point. You are about to learn the top 2 ways to become irresistibly magnetic in the eyes of your wife.

And it will not take a lot of time.

Before you read another word, it is important that you understand one thing. And that is:

It is 100% possible to change the way a woman sees you.

You can change the way a woman sees you for the better.

You can change the way a woman sees you for the worse.

Let’s dive in.

Top Secret Way # 1 - Become a master at getting her in a good and upbeat mood.

I’m going to explain because this may seem obvious.

The truth is many guys are doing all of the wrong things when it comes to becoming more sexually desirable to women.

Many guys out there are buying 4 ton trucks in their attempts to become desirable.

Many guys out there are working out in the gym for 9 hours a day in their attempts to become desirable.

In fact if there was a way that you could become invisible, you would notice something.

In other words if you secretly entered the homes of 100 married men (while being invisible), you would notice that over 90 of them initiate sex with their wives while making zero effort in getting her in a positive, upbeat, happy and energetic mood.

You would also observe guys trying to get sex from her while she is tired. You would see these clueless bastards initiating sex on days when she is feeling miserable.

Then you would see the guys getting angry at her when she turns him down for sex.

You would see the guy feeling hurt, sad and rejected.

You would even see these guys eventually thinking about cheating.

You would see these men become weak & insecure creatures before your very eyes!

The truth is getting her in an upbeat mood before initiating makes a lot of sense.

All you need to do is become a master at it. And this is simple as getting her to focus on fun moments that the two of you have shared in the past.

Make her laugh.

Think back to times when you were able to cheer her up or make her laugh and do those things.

Take her out to a comedy club or at a minimum select something funny to watch on TV.

Do you see how it works?

And once you master doing that while combining it with the next tip, magical things will begin to happen.

Top secret way # 2 - L.O.C. (Levels of Communication )

I’ll explain.

Please make sure you listen up, because it’s very important and you will not find this discussed anywhere else.

Once you master LOC, you would see changes in a very short amount of time.

For example: Try to imagine your wife as being 50 different women. You can even pretend all 50 of your wives are walking around in your house.

I’ll explain so that it makes crystal clear sense.

If your wife’s name is Mary, then there are 50 Mary’s walking around.

Mary-1, Mary-2, Mary-3, etc..

Each Mary represents a *different mood*.

Do you see where I am going with this?

For example, Mary-1 could be your wife when she is tired and exhausted.

And Mary-17 could be your wife when she is happy about life, energetic and upbeat about everything.

Wouldn’t you rather have sex with Mary-17?

Isn’t she more likely to want to have sex?

The amazing thing is that your words can magically change Mary-1 into Mary-17.

It literally takes milliseconds to move her from a bad mood to a good mood (or vice versa).

Let’s move onto LOC.

The truth is women sometimes say things that don’t make sense to a guy.

A guy will argue with his wife and during the argument he’ll ask himself: Does she even care about solving the problem?

If this has ever happened to you, you obviously discovered that there is a difference in communication structure between men and women.

And before I continue, I want you to realize that there is so much twisted up information out there it is sad. If someone told me to make one prediction - it would be that these how to read body language books are going to become fazed out in the next 100 years.

And after that, people will start to focus on communication as the starting point for understanding women. Any time a guy is seeking to become more sexually desirable in the eyes of women, the results will ALWAYS begin with communication.

If you are a man who wants your wife to see you as irresistibly magnetic, then your efforts must begin with communication.

Because if you understand the language differences in a woman, then you will realize that those words have significance because it comes from her brain.

And her brain stores the information that decides whether she will perceive you as sexually desirable.

The secret key to becoming sexually desirable in the eyes of women depends on your ability to affect her mood. And that ability depends on your communication and how well you understand the levels of communication.